Brazilian Jiu Jitsu (BJJ) is more than just a martial art—it’s a path to self-confidence, discipline, and personal growth. At Gracie Barra Utah, women are finding empowerment on the mats, discovering new strengths and skills they never thought possible. In a world where martial arts are often seen as male-dominated, these women are breaking barriers, proving that Jiu Jitsu is for everyone, regardless of gender.
In this interview, we sit down with some of the dedicated women who train at Gracie Barra Utah to hear their stories. They share their experiences, from their initial impressions to how BJJ has transformed their lives. Whether you’re considering joining a Jiu Jitsu class for fitness, self-defense, or personal development, their insights will inspire and encourage you to take that first step. Let’s go!
OBS: We deeply respect the personal stories and experiences shared by these incredible women, which is why we have chosen not to disclose their names. The images are illustrative and include random photos from our women’s-only Jiu-Jitsu class.
1. What were your first impressions of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu before you joined? How have those impressions changed after training at Gracie Barra Utah?
Most women had little or no knowledge of Jiu-Jitsu before joining, but they quickly realized its value in building confidence and providing realistic self-defense skills.
Woman 1:
To be honest, I had no initial impression. I showed up to a trial class knowing nothing about it. I had not trained before, but I remember my first impression of Gracie Barra Salt Lake City: everyone, from staff to members, was so welcoming and friendly. They helped me feel comfortable and not like an outcast newbie. It really eased my nerves.
Woman 2:
I thought, “I could do this; it looks simple.” I grew up wrestling with my older brothers.
Woman 3:
I had no idea what Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu was. I thought it might be like karate or taekwondo. My first impressions? I thought it might be too physical because it’s such a close-contact sport. I wasn’t comfortable with people in my space. After practicing for a year, I understand its importance from a self-defense perspective. Allowing that kind of contact teaches you how to defend yourself in very realistic situations, which is critical.
2. What inspired you to start practicing Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, and how has it impacted your life, both physically and mentally?
Each woman found unique inspiration to start Jiu-Jitsu, and the practice has significantly improved their mental resilience, physical fitness, and sense of control in stressful situations.
Woman 1:
I am a victim of past domestic violence. I’ve been in uncomfortable situations where someone bigger and stronger took advantage of me. I panicked, felt uncoordinated, and experienced fear paralysis. On Valentine’s Day, I faced a scary situation with an aggressive stranger and a black van in a parking lot. I was shaking and told myself I didn’t want to feel afraid in public anymore. I Googled “Self defense Salt Lake City,” found Gracie Barra, and signed up for a trial class. BJJ has impacted my life by helping me control my breathing, remain present, and feel more physically and mentally prepared. Fun fact: people used to jump scare me, and I’d scream and fall backward. Now, I step forward with my hands up—a completely different reaction.
Woman 2:
My children inspired me. I watched them train for a year before joining. Physically and mentally, it was more challenging than I expected. As a long-distance runner, I was surprised my breathing techniques didn’t work for Jiu-Jitsu. I had to learn to calm my mind in stressful positions. Breathing and mentally reassuring myself helped me learn and adapt.
Woman 3:
This has impacted my life in unexpected ways. I faced some personal demons. Jiu-Jitsu is probably the most intense exposure therapy one can participate in. My brain is changing. I’m learning to stay calm, think through threatening situations, problem-solve, and trust myself. Plus, my body is getting stronger.
3. Many women are concerned about the close physical contact in grappling sports like Jiu Jitsu. How did you initially feel about this, and how have you adjusted over time?
Initially hesitant about the close contact, all women came to see it as an essential aspect of learning effective self-defense and gaining confidence.
Woman 1:
I was initially afraid I would get injured. I worried I’d never stop feeling weak. But Gracie Barra trains you at your own pace, with no pressure. I recommend the GBF women’s class; it builds close connections and empowerment among women. Instructors like Professor Andrea and Coach Melissa are incredibly uplifting.
Woman 2:
I wanted to experience full contact. I’ve had violations of my personal space and didn’t want to feel powerless again. I’m still learning to have control, but I have much more now than when I started.
Woman 3:
I wasn’t comfortable with people in my space at first. Over time, I realized the close contact is essential for self-defense. It teaches you how to handle realistic situations effectively.
4. How has the supportive environment at Gracie Barra Utah influenced your Jiu Jitsu journey?
The welcoming and supportive community at Gracie Barra Utah has been a crucial factor in each woman’s growth, motivation, and overall positive experience.
Woman 1:
I get a warm welcome every time I go to class. My Jiu-Jitsu training buddies notice if I miss class and will check in on me, as do the professors. It’s motivating to have a social connection with people who share the journey and help you grow.
Woman 2:
Being welcomed into a new environment has been extremely influential. Advice is given with love and concern, which has helped me respect Jiu-Jitsu and my teammates.
Woman 3:
The environment at Gracie Barra is phenomenal. The instructors, especially in the Jiu-Jitsu women’s class, are incredibly supportive and sensitive. The gym as a whole feels like a beautiful community.
5. In what ways has Jiu Jitsu helped you feel more confident and empowered in your everyday life?
Jiu-Jitsu has given these women greater situational awareness, self-confidence, and the ability to handle real-world challenges without fear.
Woman 1:
I’m more environmentally aware and have adapted healthy safety habits, like not being on my phone while walking to my car alone. Knowing what I’ve learned in Jiu-Jitsu so far makes me feel better and more confident. It just keeps improving.
Woman 2:
Jiu-Jitsu has given me the confidence not to be afraid to walk by myself, even though I’m a small woman. One time, a man yelled obscene things at me and my children in a store. He walked toward us aggressively, but I wasn’t afraid because I mentally rehearsed the moves I could use to contain him if needed.
Woman 3:
The biggest gift that Jiu-Jitsu gave me has been a more realistic sense of safety. I trust myself to problem-solve and be less reactive to past traumas.
6. What would you say to women who are hesitant to try Jiu Jitsu because they think it’s too physically demanding or male-dominated?
Jiu-Jitsu is empowering, inclusive, and adaptable, offering women a safe space to grow at their own pace while building confidence and control.
Woman 1:
Just try one free trial class. If you feel more comfortable rolling with women first, voice it to the staff or approach the other women; everyone is super friendly. The male members are also empathetic and will work with your needs, letting you take things slow and offering helpful tips.
Woman 2:
It’s the most empowering and healing sport you’ll ever do. I’ve learned moves that give me full control over men twice my weight and height.
Woman 3:
Come to a women’s class, meet the community, and give it time. You’ll find your people. When you’re ready, ease into other classes—or not. You’re in control.
7. What has been the most rewarding or memorable moment for you in your Jiu Jitsu for women journey?
The most rewarding moments include achieving personal milestones, forming deep connections with teammates, and gaining a sense of accomplishment.
Woman 1:
Submitting a male training partner for the first time in a Jiu-Jitsu class. He was bigger than me, which was intimidating, but that moment made me feel I was finally putting what I learned into action. It was a big step in my journey to feel less afraid of larger men.
Woman 2:
I get emotional at Jiu-Jitsu belt promotions. But the biggest reward Jiu-Jitsu has given me has been the friends I’ve made and the family I’ve become a part of. We help each other heal and become better people.
Woman 3:
In Jiu-Jitsu everyone is a student and a teacher on some level. We help each other. It’s like nothing I’ve ever experienced.
